Mini Death Cafe

I told the group about my experience yesterday with the Zen Hospice “End of Life Conversation.” I was very impressed with the experience. There were 9 people using the Zoom platform, including a wonderful facilitator.  The people weren’t all Buddhist practitioners, but had a very varied background and from a wide range of ages. I was impressed at what a thoughtful experience it was. The group (and our group today) talked a lot about how alienating grief and caregiving was for them, and how hard we are on ourselves in our expectations of how we deal with the issues surrounding death and illness.

I am going to get written instructions from Zen Hospice on how to facilitate this End of Life conversation. Several people in our group are already interested in participating. We just have to figure out when and if we can handle a 3 hour long workshop (with breaks!).

Meanwhile, here’s a link to the workshops that Zen Hospice hosts:

Also, I mentioned this article about the “Rainbow Bridge” from the New Yorker. I think it’s funny, but not everyone necessarily will:


Going Against the Stream!

Today (Sunday, 15 July) we talked a bit about the Foundations of Mindfulness and why we are interested in moment-by-moment awareness. I used the following article from Tricycle by Stephen Bachelor, who talked about why the Buddha stressed mindfulness of the breath, the body, feelings, mind, and objects of mind. It wasn’t just to become calm, but to understand and accept ourselves just as we are:

Foundations of Mindfulness

We then talked a bit about art: I got off on a bit of a tangent with a short discussion on Neandertal art. This started with me talking about how deep our conditioning likely goes: back into our evolutionary past. I always have thought that Neandertals have received bad press when they were quite sophisticated. And I just read a Scientific American article showing they were abstract thinkers as indicated by cave paintings:

Ancient Cave Paintings Clinch the Case for Neandertal Symbolism

Abstract images in Spanish caves date back 65,000 years—millennia before Homo sapiens set foot in Europe—settling a long-running debate over Neandertal cognition

Finally, I recommended that we try out new ways of “being in the moment”: perhaps by sketching and painting even if that’s not something we may think we’re any good at. It’s yet another way to be “in the moment.” This is the book I recommended to people, but Danny Gregory has written a number of them, and they’re delightful:

The Creative License



Concentration vs Mindfulness and everything in between

Today in class we talked about the subtle and not-so-subtle differences between concentration (or one-pointedness) and mindfulness (or open awareness). It’s interesting to move back and forth between the two, and see the relationship or overlap between the two.  I referred to a great book called “Mindfulness in Plain English” by Bhante Gunaratana. The complete book is online, but here’s the section on Concentration and Mindfulness. I highly recommend you check it out!

Doubt and the Existential Crisis

Today in the Sunday sitting group, I finished up the Five Hindrances with a discussion on the fifth hindrance: Doubt. I wanted to make the point of differentiating between the freedom to question the teachers or the teachings (which I believe can be a positive experience or process) and the doubt that leads to dilettante behavior and indecision. Gil Fronsdal, a Theravada teacher, differentiates between “questioning doubt” and “hindering doubt”:

“Doubt as a hindrance is a mental preoccupation involving indecision, uncertainty, and lack of confidence. It causes a person to hesitate, vacillate, and not settle into meditation practice.”

You can read more about his take on doubt as a hindrance here:

Our country appears to be mired in a deteriorating social and spiritual crisis. I cited today’s opinion piece in the New York Times which blamed the 25% increase in suicide to an existentialist crisis. Anxiety, depression and a lack of some spiritual or communal anchor may also lead to an existential crisis. I was moved to talk about doubt and feelings of unworthiness which might cause people to stop meditating. Insight meditation has the potential to lead us toward a more stable awareness from which we can face the struggles and impermanence of our lives with more ease and enable us to feel more connected to our fellow humans, rather than separate and alienated.

Here is the link to materials I used on the Five Hindrances: (from the Insight Meditation Center, Santa Rosa, CA)

Opinion: Suicides have increased: is this an Existential Crisis?

(please note: the piece is very opinionated, and I sort of liked the comments from readers better!)

And this is really quite good:

What is an Existential Crisis?

NEW! Online class available starting April 22

Impermanence: A Buddhist Perspective on Coping with Change
An Online Course with Wendy Eisner
April 22-May 26, 2018

live sessions: Thursdays from 7-8:30pm

Course Registration: $60 for 6 weeks

We all know that everything changes, but do we really understand impermanence? The Buddha considered the concept of impermanence to be a core teaching, and encouraged his followers to meditate upon it, discuss it and contemplate it. I am offering a 6-week course on this topic to do just that. The course will be accessible to everyone: Buddhists, non-Buddhists, beginners as well as experienced meditators. The views and topics that will be introduced in this course can be as simple or complex as you, the student, want to make them, but the material will be presented in a way that will be understandable and stimulating. Most importantly, I will present talks, discussions, and recommend practices that can potentially enrich your life in a practical way. This is an important point, because the Buddhist practice of Insight meditation is designed to be completely relevant to your life–right here and right now.

Take the course at your own pace. The only scheduled event will be the weekly video dharma session. This will be recorded live, so even if you miss it, you can access it from the website and watch it any time. Registration gives you exclusive access to course materials available at

Please note: in keeping with Tri-State Dharma’s policy, no one will be turned away for lack of ability to pay. Contact Wendy if you are in need of a scholarship. Donations help to make scholarships possible.

The course includes:

  1. Access to the course materials (password protected). You can download the syllabus, worksheets, dharma talks, meditations, and readings 24/7.
  2. Live Weekly Dharma talk: This will be a real online class with Q&A, discussion and guided meditations (1.5 hours). They will be recorded and accessible any time for all enrolled students. Zoom technology has proven easy to use for everyone, and you can sign in via phone, tablet, or computer.
  3. One-on-one, online or phone conversation with Wendy (if desired).
  4. Weekly worksheets with study guide and links to readings and meditations.
  5.  Invitation to join my ongoing online sitting group.
  6. Guided online meditations and meditation instructions (video and text).
  7. Weekly contemplation (text).

March retreat and talks

There are only a few spots available in the Tri-State Dharma retreat that Helen Vantine and I will be teaching starting March 23.  We will give priority to those registering for the weeklong retreat until February 23.   On February 23, we will release any remaining spots to weekend retreatants who are on our waiting list.    Please register through our website now:

On another note, I have been asked to give talks to various groups (libraries, non-profits, and community organizations) in the past months, covering topics from current environmental issues to meditation techniques and everything in between. I have considerable experience as a public speaker. I would like to spread the word that I would be open to giving talks on topics within my area of expertise.  Here’s a list of some talks I have given or will be offering in the near future:

  1. Introduction to mindfulness meditation
  2. American Buddhism and Environmental Sustainability as a Continuing Act of Compassion
  3. The Practice of Lovingkindness and Compassion
  4. Practical Meditation: Innovative ways to deal with whatever the world is throwing at you!

Of course, I’m also always happy to give talks on climate change and my research and work with the Inupiat Eskimos. I am an emeritus professor and my research is all peer-reviewed and current.

Things to do to be happier this season

To Be Happier: Try some of these ideas:

  1. Meditate but if you aren’t able to, don’t beat yourself up.
  2. Move (as in exercise).
  3. Keep a journal. Gratitude, dreams, diary. Write 15 minutes a day.
  4. Keep your cell phone in another room when you sleep.
  5. Assess your mood once a day in a clinical (non-reactive) way.
  6. Keep coming back to your body.
  7. Be generous from an open heart.
  8. Dance, sing, listen to music.
  9. Try to maintain a consistent eating and sleeping schedule.
  10. Experience the natural world as a time out.
  11. Do breathing/body exercises (square breathing/Pico-Pico): Link to breath exercise
  12. Do lovingkindness (metta) meditation.
  13. Read a book (preferably a novel).
  14. Remember that you are part of the human race, and we’re all in this together.

Square breathing and Pico-Pico guided meditation

Here’s the promised square breathing and Pico-Pico body scan. You can listen to it as an embedded audio file or download the audio.

If you’re feeling a sense of gratitude for the work I did to offer these teachings, think about how you can indicate your appreciation.  The practice of generosity, or Dana, is a genuine and important Buddhist practice, and entails examining your own conditioning regarding voluntary giving.


square breathing

Coming in March: A Residential Retreat with Wendy!

Tri-State Dharma presents an Insight Meditation residential retreat at the Oakwood Retreat Center in Selma Indiana.

Teachers: Wendy Eisner with Helen Vantine

Dates: March 23-30 (7 days) or March 23-25 (weekend), 2018

COST: $225/weekend
$780/7 day

  • Registrations for the full 7-day retreat will be given priority.
  • Weekend retreatants will share a room.
  • A few retreatants staying for 7 days may have a shared room for the first 2 nights.
  • Those who register early for the 7 day retreat will be given priority for a private room for the entire retreat.

Further Information and registration at the Tri-State Dharma web site: LINK